Sex in marriage

There are quite a few myths regarding sex in marriage. These myths relate to decrease in desire, libido over the years and in the frequency and pleasure of complete sexual intercourse. Is there a kernel of truth in these myths? And how can sexual functioning problems be resolved after getting married?

Sex in marriage does not have to die out!
There are quite a few myths regarding sex in marriage. These myths relate to decrease in desire over the years and in the frequency and pleasure of complete sexual intercourse. These are nothing more than myths. Facts based on many studies show that married couples enjoy complete and satisfying sexual intercourse, have it frequently and are constantly interested in improving it.
Example: Studies done on men in the western world showed that the average duration of sexual intercourse is ten minutes. However, when the men were asked whether they were pleased with that amount of time, 71% said that they would like to prolong the amount of time by at least a few minutes.

So how long do men want sex to last?

Here are some more surprising facts:

• 37% of men would like to have sex for longer than half an hour!
• 34% would like to have sex for between 15 to 30 minutes.
• 21% of the men that were asked would be satisfied with 7-13 minutes.
• Only 8% said that 6 minutes of sexual activity are enough for them.

These facts are indisputable: Most men are interested in complete, long lasting and satisfying sexual intercourse

Maintaining the erection

In order to lengthen the duration of sexual intercourse two conditions must be met:

• A full erection
• A prolonged erection

Many men, at different ages, but mainly at an older age, suffer from erectile problems, or erectile dysfunction. These problems arise as a result of various reasons, psychological and medical. There might not be enough blood reaching the erection; it is possible that smoking, diabetes, high blood pressure, heart problems, prostate issues are preventing lasting erections. The sexual dysfunction might also be caused by low self-esteem or libido.

In any event, the inability to have an erection or maintain one for long enough does not indicate lack of sexual desire. Sometimes, the man has a great sexual desire but he is physically unable to improve his sexual functioning.

Solutions for a lack of erection
It is important to point out that while erectile dysfunction is a common problem, it is not often spoken about. Many men would rather not talk about it, from fear of embarrassment, shame and stigma. The truth is that there is nothing to be ashamed of, and erectile dysfunction, just like any other medical problem, can be solved with the right treatment.